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In the 1980s and 1990s, video dating was actually pretty popular. People would record videos with their camcorders at an office of a matchmaking company. Then singles would come in and watch the videos one by one and choose someone who they wanted to go on a date with. Speed dating was also pretty popular because you could meet anywhere between 10 to 50 people in one night and decide again, who you wanted to go on a date with face-to-face.
Fast forward 10 to 20 years, and dating has turned into either a swipe left or a swipe right to find your next fling. Even though Tinder and other apps have made online dating a lot more popular, it took a long time to get to that point. Just three years ago when I first started building my own video dating app, only 15% of singles worldwide were using dating apps. Thanks to Tinder and other apps like OkCupid, Coffee meets bagel, Hinge, and others, online dating apps are now used by almost 50% of singles.
It takes time for a barrier to come down, whether religion, race, or the stigma of dating online. For some reason, people just never felt comfortable putting their personalities and pictures online and meeting each other in a virtual world. But now that it is more commonplace, people are comfortable, and they are meeting at a record pace. The question is, what is the next evolution now that the walls have been broken down to the world of online dating?
Video. Real-time video. That is where dating is headed. And here’s a few reasons why:
- People are tired of getting catfished. Everyone knows that photos are usually made to look better, make up is used, and good angles are prominent. But when you meet that person in real life, they are rarely like their online persona, both in looks and personality. Videos will change that.
- Vine, Instagram, Periscope, YouTube, Snapchat, and other apps are making video more and more ubiquitous across the board. People are getting used to showcasing their lives using video. What better way to get to know people on a dating app except for video?
- Every evolution takes time to take hold, the online dating revolution took 10 to 20 years to take hold. Video might take another 10 years. But we are ahead of the game, and have been here for years.
- Investors are always looking for the next big thing, whereas today they may not see how big a market video dating is, one day they will, mark my words. When that happens, it will explode.
- Single parents would rather have 20 bad dates from the comfort of their home while the kids are playing in the other room, rather than getting ready, spending money and time, to have one bad date in person.
- On the other hand, singles could have a really good date using a video dating app, and then feel more comfortable in person when they finally meet instead of having that awkward 21 questions, uncomfortable silence, and just the weird first date vibes.
Overall, video dating is the best way to find out if you have chemistry with a potential single person, before meeting in person. This will cause a shift in online dating to the point where there will be a lot less bad dates, less catfishing, and more relationship building. Having video chats and sending video messages prior to meeting in person will help establish some sort of foundation. Only time will tell to see when this massive movement will start to emerge. In the meantime, we are here, we are ready, and we are all about real-time video.
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I’m sure that if you’re single, you will agree that you’re sick of hearing “When you find the one, you will just know. You won’t question it anymore, you will just stop asking yourself if this is who you are supposed to be with.” I’m not going to lie, I was one of the single people out there who thought that this saying might be B.S.! Yet even I was skeptical that I would ever meet anyone online. It seemed like it was an endless pool of sharks and I was just a starfish sinking to the bottomless sea of the unknown. Just a mysterious, endless, lonely ocean of nothing.
I read a long time ago that in Christian symbolism, the starfish represents the Virgin Mary (Stella Maris which means Star of the Sea), who creates safe travel over troubled waters and is also seen as an emblem of salvation during trying times. The star as well as the starfish are seen as celestial symbols and as such, they represent infinite divine love. In addition to love, the starfish also holds characteristics such as guidance, vigilance, inspiration, brilliance and intuition. If a starfish is injured and its tentacles are removed, they grow back making them immortal. They have fascinated me since the first time my mother gave me one as a pet for my birthday.
At first, during my search for love I was oblivious like anyone else. I would see an attractive picture and email back and forth with men that were obviously nothing like me and had nothing in common with me. I was being shallow. I usually went for someone who was emotionally unavailable or someone who lived far away, or who was mysterious, or showed signs of being taken. I was avoiding commitment and I didn’t even know I was doing it. I was making mistakes and learning the hard way. Each day that went by I lost more and more hope. Did I even deserve to have someone special in my life? I was in seven weddings and watched my girlfriends go on honeymoons, have babies, and buy houses. Meanwhile, I was going to bed alone night after night, and each day my job (I was a matchmaker) was to tell people how to be patient and that love does exist.
One thing my job did teach me during this journey was a lot about research and statistics on singles and online dating. So I started to learn trends and what drove people to choose one person over another users profile. I learned online lingo, how to choose the best profile pictures, and how to make an appealing first impression by video. I read and watched thousands of profiles, looked at probably a million people that sounded exactly the same. But how could everyone be the same?! I was becoming an expert on online dating profiles and platforms. I even sat on panels and had shows about the topics. Then I went on a hundred bad dates. I really started using what I learned and my dates actually started to get better and started lasting past two or three dates. But I was still alone and not feeling the ultimate connection. I was getting no sort of real commitment.
The truth is, no matter what expert data you have and learn or analytics on dating trends and skills its still up to timing, fate, luck, and the universe. So long story short I actually found him and I just knew like people said I would! He is the most amazing, kindhearted man I have ever met. He is just like me and we could have fun throwing rocks, or talking for hours. We have a lot in common and I feel like he was made just for me. Like I created him in my mind or something. Sometimes I wonder if he’s even human. Well here is what I did:
1. Pray – I’m not super religious but on those lonely nights when I was lying in bed with tears in my eyes I would pray that God would help me or lead me in the right direction to find someone who had a heart like mine.
2.Clean out the closet – I got rid of my past just a couple days before I met him. I said my final goodbyes to people who had wasted my time or had been unemotionally available. I wanted a game free environment for anyone coming in.
3. Stop going on dates/research – I used to go on a date if someone asked me and they looked decent or had an interesting job. But now before I went on any date I took it more serious. I would review their profiles then text as many important vital questions. I did my research. I would check out their LinkedIn, Facebook, and any online presence, have video chats, etc. Its amazing what you can learn about a person when they are not putting on a facade to lure you in to go on a date with them.
4. I did the picking and choosing – Usually a man would approach me online, ask me out and that’s how the courtship began. But this time I refused to talk to anyone that emailed me or sent me a wink. I wanted the men that were not interested and I wanted to find out why. So I was now the one sending the first emails and my decision was based on how they responded back. What I found during my investigation was the most unusual finding. I found my guy on the first try using my new approach. I didn’t know it would happen that fast but it did and I’m ecstatic. I found ten things I liked about him and listed them kind of like I would list on a PowerPoint for investors and sent it to him. Here is what I like about you, here is what I want, here is what I offer, do you want to meet? At first he wanted to meet for a drink like any other date but then he texted me back and said he would rather play miniature golf. I knew this was going to be different.
5.Vulnerable/Honesty – I went into this wholeheartedly. Yes I was hurt in the past, but I had nothing to lose. I was already alone. I was honest with him like I would be with any of my best friends or family members. I was very vulnerable. I always go for the unavailable guys. He was different. He was showing that he was available. I gave him my trust. I remember one of our first few dates he told me to get dressed up and I had no clue where we were going but I let him surprise me. I didn’t have to know everything. I didn’t have to know all the answers or where we were going as long as it was together. This was new to me.
I wasn’t alone anymore, I found another starfish in the sea to float through the great big ocean. Maybe it’s not about what you think is supposed to happen but it’s about taking what’s missing in your heart more serious. After you do this then you will let timing, fate, karma, and serendipity come into play. Don’t ever give up hope. There is absolutely someone for everyone.
Have you ever dated a foreigner? Or, are you a foreign national dating an American? Have you ever struggled with the fact that you or your loved one may have to leave the country for immigration reasons, and that a Green Card arrangement is always something hanging at the back of your minds besides the marriage topic itself – which already adds a ton of pressure to the relationship?
Well, I have. For as long as I’ve been here in America, the guys I date seldom failed to ask me about my ‘status’, besides just whether I’m single or married. While I can understand the US Citizen’s suspicion of getting taken advantage of, it doesn’t take away the sting. It almost always starts the relationship off with a bad taste. So, to save myself the embarrassment and to start the relationship on the right foot, I’ve learned to address the concern myself before the relationship gets serious, and ‘come clean’ about my intentions of not just dating a guy for a Green Card Marriage. Even though I’ve learned to treat it matter-of-factly over the years, it’s still not the most comfortable conversation to have, and the guys usually don’t really know what to say other than “Sure” “Ok” “Alright…can we have sex now?”…Sigh.
Which was why I totally melted at my last boyfriend’s response. He chuckled, and then held my hand. He was thinking like “OK, even if she doesn’t like me, maybe I can still offer a Green Card to keep her.” Of course he was just kidding! “In all seriousness sweetie, I’m not too worried about it and you shouldn’t worry about it either. If it comes to the point where we need to make a decision, then we’ll see how much we are really attached; and if I can’t let go, that means I really like you…so I won’t (let go)…anyways, it will be a happy problem to have.”
Sigh. How I loved that guy for it. Alas, we both did let go – for other reasons and for the best, but I’ll never forfeit his Best Answer Ever award, and I would encourage all the American brothers and sisters out there to learn from him on this – if you don’t want to alienate your foreign born sweethearts on this very tricky, very special topic.
No: Borders, distance, and nationality do not necessarily kill love. However, insecurity and suspicion that comes with it, DOES. You can’t blame a foreign national for yearning stability or feeling insecure about his/her status in America and how it affects their dating lives, just like you can’t blame them for seeking love in the first place. You can’t blame the US Citizens looking out for their own interest and not making long term commitment for reasons other than pure love. But it takes trust to melt away insecurity, and it takes confidence to address suspicion. It is a two way street.
Here’s another perspective from someone else who also lives and breathes these concerns everyday. The “Best Immigration Attorney on the Main Line”, John Vandenberg shares: “Most of the time, you’ll find that the US Citizen doesn’t really care (about their partner’s immigration status or whether they’d have to sponsor them), they just want to find someone to start a life with, and if this someone happens to be a foreign national, then so be it. Love comes with its responsibilities. Plus, for the US Citizen, all they have to do is to show up for the interview (with the immigration officer)!” How refreshing. The weight of the world was just lifted from my shoulders! Should I sign up for the 90 Day Fiancé?
But wait, what are some of the other challenges couples might face if they do plan to go through the family based Green Card sponsorship at some point? “Family and cultural misunderstandings,” said Vandenberg, “I find that clients sometimes underestimate how much they DON’T know about each other and their extended families until they really have to sit down, make a firm commitment and go through this process. For example, it’s very hard for us Americans to imagine having a large extended family visiting and literally having them in your face every day without a break; on the other hand, it hurts the foreign national spouse’s feelings to realize that their American spouses really need to ‘take a break’ from all the family and cultural stuff. What seemed exotic and exciting at first may become a burden and cause for constant conflicts down the road, if couples don’t seek to communicate and reconcile as early as possible.”
With that being said, is there light at the end of the tunnel? Absolutely. With cultural and political advances, lovers across different borders are coming closer every day, empowered also by new technologies that help them find each other, fall in love and stay in love in unprecedented ways. It’s a known fact that dating apps in particular have been growing exponentially in international territories just as fast as they are in America. Another interesting fact is that singles from Europe, Asia and the Middle East are talking to singles in the United States using these free dating apps, which is wonderful! Breaking down the traditional barriers and really helping people from all over the world find love with a bigger scope is the main goal driving certain apps in particular.
You never know – the love of your life might be just around the corner, or he/she might be all the way at the other end of the world. Technology helps you create the same intimacy and transparency on your first few “meetings” so you can create the same bond with someone, no matter where you are.
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A guy I have known only a few weeks told me he loves me. While we were on the phone, he told his friend that he was talking to the woman who might be his wife. Whoa… I just spent 6 years in divorce court. Marriage talk… Not exactly a winning strategy with me.
He talks about how we will make a great team and offered me housing. He says he has spent the past 15 years looking for someone like me. We haven’t even kissed. He is a really nice person. I enjoy talking to him. He’d make a kick ass business partner. But, he needs a dating coach. He is going about finding love all wrong.
In theory you should be able to stop the game playing and tell someone you like, that you like them right away. In reality, however, you need to follow the following rules…
1. Play hard to get.
2. Never put all your eggs in one basket… Do not focus on one person. Date lots of people. Don’t stop dating lots of people until someone you want to be in a relationship with is falling in love with you.
3. Exercise. If you are a guy, do not assume money alone will get you laid. Both sexes care a lot about how you look naked. The better you look, the easier dating becomes.
4. Do not tell someone you are attracted to them. Keep them guessing about whether or not you have the hots for them.
5. Do not call a new person often. We are back to Rule number 1. Do not call too often because you need to play hard to get.
Sorry I did not make this funny. I have a migraine. But, while it isn’t funny, it is the best advice anyone could give you. Memorize those rules.
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It’s human nature to think you will beat the odds. That is why so many people buy lottery tickets. It is also why people sign up for The Bachelor. Every contestant thinks they have a good chance of ending up on a mountain top with The Bachelor on his knee offering a lifetime of connubial bliss.
The 24/25 (I think those are the odds) chance of being rejected on TV while millions watch doesn’t seem to register. Every time the person who doesn’t get the rose seems shocked they got rejected, I want to knock some sense into their head. When you give yourself a 96% chance of getting rejected, expect rejection. Why are you crying in the back seat of some car? I feel no sympathy. Of course, I also have a hard time feeling sorry for gorgeous singles in their twenties.
While I think The Bachelor contestants are moronic for expecting to beat the overwhelming odds against them, I made a similar mistake in my last relationship. A mistake you can learn from. This boyfriend had never been dumped. He’d been in plenty of long term relationships and even a 9 year marriage, but he was always the one who bailed.
While we were together, I had that same “magical” thinking that you see on The Bachelor. I knew he’d dumped lots of women. Statistically my chances of getting rejected are astronomical. But I’m special. I have something those other girls lacked. That was my moronic thinking. Needless to say, I got dumped. By that time, I didn’t care that much. I had a crush on someone else. This boyfriend had been awful to deal with. There was no communication, but what I think happened was that he sensed my roving eye and got out before I could hurt him. In hindsight, I can say that was his MO. He’d never gotten rejected because he bailed first to avoid the heart break and humiliation.
The lessons to be learned are that if you don’t learn from your paramour’s history, it repeats itself. If a guy has a track record of dumping lots of people, you are setting yourself up for a dumping. Hit the road and stay far, far away. You are special, but that does not mean when a person’s past proves they suck at relationships that your relationship with them won’t suck too. It will.
I got no closure from my last relationship, until last week. It ended with no warning. I knew he had never been dumped. He’d left every relationship he’d ever been in. That should have made me wary. An important clue to where your relationship is going is where your ex’s relationships have gone.
But, I learned something about gambling that applies. It is human nature to think you will beat the odds. That is why people buy lottery tickets. While chances of winning are next to nothing, people buy the tickets because they think might win.
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There’s a big game going around the internet, and if you’re innocent like me you may have been played once or twice. Half the people you meet online have other people on the side or a slew of others on the back burner. I never used the internet to meet people until I started researching different websites for my own app. There were a few apps I just stayed away from because I knew they were bad news and I wasn’t looking for a one night stand. I was looking for a serious relationship and I made this very clear in my profiles. But after one failure after another I realized online profiles don’t work, they are just a bunch of the words that paint a picture to lure you in. Marketing yourself at your best. Is dating really a job interview?
I was once approached online by a very confident man who boasted about his prestigious job and how much money his family had. He was not only boasting but he was telling me how great I was and blowing up my head and my phone for days on end. The problem was that I was not attracted to him at all. So after his constant emails, texts, and compliments galore…I gave in. After our date, he was really acting like he was all about me to the point I thought it was a little too much.
But some signs were showing, his words were just words and when I called his bluff he turned the situation around on me, calling me insecure and needy. He made me feel like I was the problem. I don’t want this happening to others. The game is nasty and will have you feeling defeated. So here are some signs these guys/gals are all talk and just professional serial daters:
1.They are eager to talk about the future: house, kids, wedding , they seem in a rush and make all these great romantic plans yet they don’t even know your middle name.
2.They tell you to take your online profile down: yet they don’t take their’s down. They get weird about adding you to facebook or social media feeds. They get upset if you tag them in pictures without their permission. This is because they have something to hide. And I think every fifth person you know, knows someone you know so they might get caught.
3.They want to talk to you all the time at first and they are so comfortable: Honestly that kind of comfort is a professional online dater. When you really like someone there’s always a little shyness at first until you warm up.
4.When you finally show interest they back off so quick: You won’t know where they went. Poof – gone! My best friend always said,”If they are hot and heavy that means they are never ready.”
5.They are usually fast talkers: They always have something going on. They either get back to you right that second or hours later with excuses why it took them so long. Top three excuses: (1)Something with Work (2) Their phone battery was dead. (3)With friends or family. Funny part is you know they are lying because most dating apps show when you were last logged in. So if you were so busy, how did you have time to search for other girl/guys?
6.They never say anything imperfect about themselves: A man or a woman who doesn’t make mistakes or doesn’t have any flaws cannot be trusted.
7. Call them out: On their BS, and watch what happens. That sweet guy/gal gets nasty real fast. You interrupted the game and they don’t like losing a turn. As quick as they wanted to sweep you off your feet they will pull that rug from under you and won’t help you back up.
Hope this helps if you are online and see any of these signs welcome to the game.
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I don’t believe in second chances. The old me used to give second chances and it was nothing but a waste of time. Listen, the truth is people don’t really change situations do. People just adapt to the new situation they are put in. If your pondering whether or not you should give an ex or an old friend who has hurt you a second chance…think again. There is an old saying: The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. – Albert Einstein
I’m going to give you an example. I had an ex, and we were doing great; But when he went out with his friends he would act immature, and get wasted like he was a college frat guy. When he was with his buddies he would pick up his phone and laugh at me while lying about the places he was at so we couldn’t meet up. I wouldn’t hear from him for days when this would occur. Then I would see him add a bunch of trashy bar girls on Facebook after his Houdini act. He eventually broke up with me because he won a trip to the Miami Winter Music Conference. He was an ignorant, immature, turd who acted like he was better than me. Now I step on men like him.
When an opportunity for a second chance came along, he apologized and said he had changed. He was in a different place now, rarely drinks and he was so sorry he treated me poorly. When it came time to hang out he gave me the run around once again. Surprise…he was out drinking with his buddies at 1 PM on a Saturday. His immaturity was shinning through, Déjà vu at its’ best. I actually wanted to cry after getting hung up on by him . I felt like a joke once again, but I knew what I had to do. I told him I was over it and that there was no room for second chances. The truth is this guy is not going to change. Maybe his situation will and he will find someone that will do the same to him or put up with him and his binge drinking, but I don’t have time for it. He lacks respect for women and at 34 years old there is no changing that.
He wasn’t the only one I gave second chances to. My ex who I was engaged to and have a son with cheated on me for 9 years the entire time. I left him for over a year when he begged for me back and proposed. He made a promise when he asked me to marry him. Then he broke that promise when we were only engaged for a week and he slept with his ex girlfriend. He told me he was working late that day, and the only reason I found out was because she called me to tell me what they had done that afternoon. I was devastated. I remember the tears pouring down our faces as I took the ring off and gave him my final goodbye. I said, “Second chances don’t work because people don’t change. Maybe one day you will not cheat on a person. But not with me. You will always cheat on me.” I lost him as a friend/lover and as the father of my son I would have to see him again, but the kind of pain he introduced to me over and over was unbearable.
When people ask me why I’m single I should say: Because I don’t believe in second chances. When making the decision whether or not to take an ex back and rekindle your old flame remember this quote by Joan Crawford: “Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell.” Think about how that flame burned you once, do you want to get burned again? You probably separated because they lacked respect for you and by giving them another opportunity to do it again you are saying what your self worth really is to you. I guess I compare second chances to the book of Genesis. If you look behind you it’s an impending disaster. You have already been warned, if you do so you will turn to stone, a pillar of salt. Just keep moving forward and don’t look behind you. A safe haven is nearby and so is a better kind of love.
Until next time, one foot in front of the other, and stay on your path.
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Me in America | Me in China
“We are so worried about you…” so my Mom begins her weekly monologue on our video chat, and Dad naturally picks up her line to continue: “we can’t go to sleep, worried that there’s no one to take care of you. You know, you are almost 27 years old! Look at your friends from school, your cousins…everyone else kids we know, they are all married before 25! The longer you wait, the harder it will be to find a husband. Don’t you know what they call unmarried women after 25 here…?” Yes, I KNOW Mom and Dad – they are called the “Leftover Women” – back in China, my dear motherland.
But wait Mom and Dad, do you know what they call unmarried women after 25 HERE in America? “OMG, you are like a BABY!” “Don’t worry, you have plenty of time to find a quality man and settle down (like, in another 10 years maybe?); in the mean time, just HAVE FUN!” said all my American girlfriends.
So now Mom and Dad – as much as I love both of you dearly – do you still wonder why I still prefer to live here in America than to go back and live with you guys or the luxurious “wedding suite” you already bought for me???
You see, my generation of Chinese women grew up with an under-toned feminist movement, driven primarily by the One-Child Policy. There was no Gloria Steinem, but lucky girls like me grew up as “Little Princesses“. We believed that we can want what boys want, we can do what boys can do. We were granted the same great power as well as great expectations as boys were. Basically, we were expected to be boys. Heck, my Dad even chose the most gender neutral character for my first name he could find from the three-thousand-page thick Kang-Xi Dictionary from Qing Dynasty, and never forgets to add “son” to my nick name – so my Chinese nickname basically meant “Wei-my son”. You see, I’ve always suspected he wanted a son as much as my grandmother did, and that my grandmother was only nice to me because of my good grades (like a good boy’s grades should be).
The only downside is, well, while we were expected to be a GOOD BOY and shoulder the “Family, Honor, Duty” vow (which meant no time or capacity for dating from junior high all the way to college), we were also expected to be a GOOD GIRL and get married and have kids before 25.
All of a sudden, my relaxed democratic forward-thinking parents who didn’t blink an eye to send their daughter thousands of miles away to America “as long as that’s what you really want”, started to F.R.E.A.K.O.U.T. They started to wonder why someone who they prevented to have much if any dating or relationship experience CANNOT just go find a perfect match and be happily married, A.S.A.P.
Now compare that to my American/Western girlfriends’ experience: they started dating (officially) as early at 15… First of all, school finished at 3pm, so they had ample time to finish homework and other activities and to go out on a date. Second of all, their parents were usually supportive and the most they’d say is “Just be safe honey, and get home before 11 o’clock.” By the time they were 25, they’d probably gone through more than a dozen boyfriends and already know what they want and what they don’t want in a partner. And wait – although there are discrepancies between different ethnicities and family/religious traditions when it comes to the ‘proper age’ to settle down, they are neither eager nor pressured into desperation until maybe 35?
Chinese Women’s Dating Championship
American Women’s Dating Championship
There you have it. It’s not like Chinese women are more desperate to get married than our American girlfriends. It’s not like American women don’t want to get married less than their Chinese girlfriends. They just have a lot more time and room to search for the right partners and ‘practice’ these fun things called “dating” and “relationships” before jumping into this lifelong commitment called “marriage”.
Ironically, that’s exactly why I might have a much better chance to get married (happily) in America as a 27-Year-Old Chinese woman. I don’t HAVE to jump into marriage after a few arranged meetings my parents set up after checking the horoscope and family financial statements. I don’t HAVE to find out a few months INTO the marriage that I’m not compatible in real life with my perfect-match-on-paper. I don’t HAVE to stay in a relationship or marriage just because I’m concerned about “what the neighbors would say”. I.A.M.F.R.E.E. – To explore, to ‘practice’, to LOVE, to get married when I want to, with Mr. Right of my dreams who WANTs me too – not just because he’s being pressured by his parents or peers or society in general.
Luckily, with more and more technology innovations in social networking and dating to bring people together from all around the globe, our world is one that’s becoming more and more modern and homogeneous when it comes to dating, relationships and marriage – be open, be free, and enjoy the process. There’s never a guaranteed happy ending for any path, but this one has a better chance – and a much better view along the road!
This is what I want for myself. This is what I want for all my Chinese sisters. I want to help them set themselves FREE and start dating like their American girlfriends – like Taylor Swift, like Joy Chen. Heck, even like me, who really started dating like an American girl not from 15, but from 25 – and guess what? I’ve been having the best time of my life ever since, and I’ve never been more sure that I WILL find the man of my dreams to build a happy marriage – and to have grumpy funny cute babies with – EVENTUALLY.