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Why Being Single is like Being on Unemployment

16 Monday Mar 2015

Posted by kristinlasalle in Dating Tips, international, love, Relationships, Uncategorized

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I ponder sometimes why some people get married and some stay single? In our day and age having a partner is the least of our worries. Just trying to keep a good job these days is hard enough. Employers demand perfection. Top education from Ivy league schools but they end up paying you chump change and they let you know that you’re easily replaceable.

I was in a few relationships in my life, three in total that actually count . But my most significant was a 9 year run (I have now been single for 6 years almost equal time). You can’t say It was a lack of trying or loyalty on my end. But like every bad job a relationship ends the same way.  Packing your stuff up and waiting in the unemployment line pretty depressed until another door opens. You may say how is being single like unemployment : Here is how I see it.

1. Pay cut Unemployment is only 50% of your old wages and if you had a really good job, put in 9 years, had a 401k, had paid time off and health benefits etc you pretty much lost everything and have to start from scratch like I did.

2. You have to constantly keep looking for other work: You have to go online to look for companies that are hiring. You really have to do your research to find out the pros and cons, the perks, benefits and of course the location. It has to be a job you know how to do or have skills and expertise with. The hours have to work with your schedule or your child’s if you are a single parent like me.  The pay has to be enough to support the household. Kind of like looking for a partner online, you’re looking for the right match and fit and hoping that this new door will open and a better life will be possible.

 

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3. You have to update your resume: No one wants to hire someone who has been  living under a rock like I was for 9 years. This also means sharpening your skills and hobbies while unemployed, getting your creative juices flowing and seeing what you are really good at. Same with dating, find out what you like to do, and what your hobbies are.  Being single is a really cool time to learn about yourself and be happy alone.

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4.Staying healthy and positive: You can’t eat ice cream and watch Netflix all day waiting for a new employer to call.  Same goes for a new future romantic partner. You need to get active, keep your mind busy, exercise, eat healthy, read more, and visit family and friends.  While you have a chance work on yourself, the better you feel, the more attractive you will appear during an interview.

5.Your time will be wasted and you will be rejected: Just know that you will go on interviews and not always get the job. You will spend countless hours on the phone with this new employer filling out documents and personality tests. Then come in for an interview and maybe a second interview if you are lucky only to waste time on gas, a nice dress, parking, and a babysitter, only to not get the job.  It’s the same with dating. You will have to go on a ton of “interviews” until you get “hired”.  You will have to go on a ton of dates until you find the right fit.

 

These are just a few reasons being single is like unemployment. Like I always tell my readers, never give up on love or finding the right job or place in life that makes you happy.

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What to do When He Likes You Back!

09 Monday Mar 2015

Posted by kristinlasalle in Dating Tips, love, Online Dating, Relationships, Romance, Sex Advice

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What do you do when he finally tells you he feels the same way? You’ve been telling your friends he’s The one” for over a year and he has not given you the time of day. You have basically been placed in the friend zone.  You guys never even got past a PG rated kiss (That was amazing by the way).  Don’t get me wrong, when you first met and he said that it was basically a mistake you never gave up hope.

He tells you that you’re crazy and  it was just a kiss but you know it meant more then that.  Meanwhile, he dates someone else and you know she is completely wrong for him yet he tests your patience as your feelings grow stronger and the friendship blossoms.
Your life is like that Taylor Swift song “You belong to me”.

Can’t you see
That I’m the one
Who understands you?
Been here all along.
So, why can’t you see—
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He’s the first person you text when you wake up. He’s the first person you think about when you go to bed. But, night after night you lie in bed alone and only wish he would realize that you’re the right one for him.And then after one year of your persistence and friendship, always letting him know you exist – out of nowhere he texts you and tells you that he’s thinking of you. Then he says the most unexpected thing…That he has wanted you all this time and it wasn’t just in your head. He thinks that you would be great in a relationship and he thinks he would be extremely happy…but he’s scared because you can be intense sometimes.


You freeze up, you always joked about being together and poked at him and flirted but you never expected him to return your feelings. And why is he scared, he is the one that made you wait an entire year? What the heck do you do? I know what I did when this happened to me: I panicked completely and shut down. Don’t let this happen to you. I basically punched him on the shoulder and went back to kidding around like I used to do while I was in the friend zone.The best advice I can give you if you find yourself in this situation is don’t freak out and start pouring all your emotions and heart out to him and don’t go knocking at his door. It was very hard for him to share his emotions with me. Men are a different breed, they do things differently and they take forever to share feelings. So try not to mess this up by being too intense.


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When that amazing moment happens, take a breath and reply, “I just want you to be happy. So since I waited a year there’s no rush. Just figure it all out and I’ll be here.” He will be happy you didn’t put pressure on him or freak out and say all or nothing!! Men hate pressure and being told what to do. They are alpha, that’s one thing I’ve learned from dating.Then let him end the conversation and see what happens next. It’s all fresh, new and exciting news – but stay calm because he could have jumped the gun and tomorrow he might chicken out and put you back in the friend zone. Then you’ll be stuck on the back burner until he feels emotionally charged toward you again. So just let it pan out and progress at its own pace.


You already know he “belongs to you”, so just be a little more patient. And to my readers out there, good luck if you are finally getting the person you wanted all along and not settling. Who said hard work doesn’t pay off and there isn’t a silver lining?!
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Five Things to Help Women Think More Like Men

04 Wednesday Mar 2015

Posted by Jason Sherman in Dating Tips, Horror Stories, Online Dating, Relationships

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1. Ladies, don’t expect a lot from men.  The less you expect, the more we will give you.  We love when a woman doesn’t constantly pressure us, analyze our relationship, ask tons of questions about our feelings, and things of that nature.  In my opinion, if you let these types of conversations happen more naturally, and when they feel right, you will get more out of us.  The best part is, it will happen when you least expect it, and it will feel that much more powerful.

2. Don’t ask us to text and call you every single day.  I personally hate when women say, “Why can’t you just text me good morning, or good night?”  Seriously?  Thinking about you all day and night isn’t enough, we need to validate our thoughts with a text message? Here’s a secret for you ladies:  If a guy asks you to hang out often, and you have a good time with him on a regular basis…..most likely he is thinking about you all the time….you don’t need to validate that with a text or a call.  Save the conversations for when you’re in person.  Now if you want to make plans, or talk about something personal, that’s when you pick up the phone, text or call, and use the phone for a purpose, not just for a silly hello.

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3. Take charge in the bedroom, we don’t like it when girls expect us to do all the work.  We are used to it and the truth is we like when girls are all over us instead of the other way around, it gets us really interested in attacking you afterward.  I dated a girl once who literally expected me to make the first move every single time.  Man was that boring….she might as well been an inflatable doll.  Now there are times where I love to rip a girls clothes off, and ravage her, sure.  But nothing turns me on more than a woman who kisses me all over my body and does what she wants to me.

4. We aren’t girls, we don’t like kissing as much as you do.  So if we don’t kiss you all the time it’s not that we don’t like you.  It’s that we just aren’t girls – so we don’t like to kiss as much.  Yes this even means in the bedroom, kissing doesn’t get us going, unless you are kissing all over our body (see #3).  So just because we don’t kiss you 24/7 doesn’t mean we don’t like you…..we do, trust me.

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5. Always offer to pay for at least half of lunch or dinner, and don’t order tons of drinks (that’s just rude).  If you expect the guy to pay for dinner and drinks it is just unfair to leave a guy with $100 tab and not even offer to pay for all the drinks you ordered.  I can’t tell you how many times I went on a date with a girl who guzzled down 3 expensive mixed drinks in a row without taking a breather, then ordered lobster & pasta, and 3 desserts!  Eff that!  I hate women who use men for dinner and drinks, especially if you never see them again after that date……What a waste of time and money!!  If you want to avoid this situation, it’s simple…offer to meet for coffee instead, it’s cheap, tasty, and if you feel it, you can go on a second date.

 

 

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Why Mothers and Science Make Sense for Love

02 Monday Mar 2015

Posted by getloveorgetlucky in Dating Tips, Home, love, Relationships, Romance, Single Parents

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Sometimes I wish it were the fifties. I wasn’t born yet, but according to my mother, my boyfriends should be so appreciative of having me, that they should pay all the bills. That thinking comes from a time where pretty girls didn’t get told that if they took long showers, they should be contributing to the bills. I’m thinking if you get to shower with me, you should be taking me out to dinner. I work out. A lot. Seeing me naked should at least be worth the cost of the water. My mom would definitely agree. I like her thinking a whole lot more than the thinking of my boyfriends.

Lately the guys I date think having a girlfriend means sharing the electric bill. In fact, I just had a relationship talk where I was told we need to be a team. Sounds relationshippy. But then he explained “team” as meaning, we both pay his mortgage. Not exactly a team I want to join.

My mom was part of a team with my dad. He was a doctor. She had a nanny and took me shopping a lot. Now that is the kind of team I do want to be on.

In case my mom ever reads this, I need to explain that she did a great job raising us so my point isn’t that she was lazy. It is nostalgia for the old days.

What my boyfriend wants is equity. Why should he pay all the bills? I say, “because I’m pretty.” Makes sense to me. Made sense for hundreds, maybe thousands, maybe millions of years.

The problem is that from purely a fairness standard, my boyfriend has the stronger argument. But, as all the science shows, women are turned on by guys who support them financially. It is so ingrained in their biology that when men don’t pay for dates, or ask for gas money, women physically get turned off.

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Studies done on Bonobos, pygmy chimps who share about 98% of our DNA, show that when a male Bonobo wants sex, he gives a female Bonobo sugar cane.  That is the equivalent of paying for dinner.  It works with the female Bonobos.  Sugar cane gets male Bonobos sex.  For the exact same survival of the fittest instincts that lurk in our genes that gets female Bonobos horny, paying for dates works on women.
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Understand that fairness and logic, won’t get you laid. You can’t out logic her subconscious mind that regulates her libido. Pay for dates. Understand that if you ask for her to pay her share of the bills, you will lose some of your sex appeal. It may not be fair. But, life isn’t fair.

If you are me, I guess the answer is to date guys my mother’s age. They learned how to treat a woman.

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When You Know He is Going to Break Up with You

25 Wednesday Feb 2015

Posted by kristinlasalle in Online Dating, Relationships

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This Christmas Eve My boyfriend broke up with me. It was over the phone and it really sucked! I was going to surprise him the day after Christmas by flying into Buffalo and staying for a holiday.  We had a long distance relationship so I don’t even know if this counts as a real relationship. But in my head it did.  I think he tried calling it off several times starting after the Thanksgiving holiday.  But as Selena Gomez quotes “The heart wants what it wants.”

My first clue he was going to break up with me was back in October. My mother had just passed away.  He was so supportive and caring, I was so happy I had him to lean on. I thought this guy was the one. But he disappeared for like two days and wouldn’t return my texts.  Our phone calls were short and the tone in his voice was just unenthusiastic. When I asked him if he was out with anyone else he said that we weren’t exclusive yet and that he had gone out on a handful of dates with other women at that time.  Of course I responded back in anger.   When did he go on these handful of dates when I was at the morgue? The viewing? Or the funeral? He said I was being unfair and emotional.  After this fight we made our relationship official and we were now only dating each other.

The problem with this was I felt like I had forced him to be with me to be loyal. Or maybe it was when he told me he got rid of the last girlfriend he had for forcing the commitment issue.  A bit of advice: You should never feel like you have to force anyone to want you.  They should  feel like you are the best thing that ever happened to them. He obviously didn’t feel this way…I mean he dumped me on Christmas Eve.  My first Christmas without my family to top things off.  When I look back on this relationship, I realize he felt sorry for me and he didn’t know how to break it off politely. How do you break up with the girl that lost both of her parents on a holiday?

Well enough about my heartbreak. This post is meant to help others out with the possibility that they are going to get dumped. Here are the obvious clues to watch out for:

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1. Commitment issues: He was hard to tie down and to agree that the relationship was committed.  He was amazing in every other way but the word exclusive made him squirm. He said he was being careful.  That he had been hurt and his ex cheated on him. Really?  C’mon…Who hasn’t been cheated on at one point?

2. Distance: He spent an entire day when I went to visit him on the computer working in the other room and only checked on me once in a 8 hour period.  I watched runaway bride with Julia Roberts and other chick flicks with his dog.  I was visiting and had to take a plane to see him, if he was really into me he should of made me his #1 priority.  He was a lawyer so I kept making excuses for him – like he has important lawyer stuff to do.

Never make excuses for their distance!

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3. Wandering eyes: He looked at other attractive women like out at the Starbucks, a waitress, my best friends boobs etc. Its bad enough girls have self esteem issues. Nothing like your guy looking at a girl 10 years younger then you ordering a mochaccino at Starbucks that her parents probably paid for on their Amex.

4. He tells you to listen! When I look back at the things he said, I should of listened to every word he once told me. “I really like you. I am still getting to know you. I don’t feel like I couldn’t live without you.  You aren’t the one but I do like you.” What kind of mind screw was that. Well break it down, he told you he could live without you and he will when he dumps you.

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I hope this article helps someone reevaluate a pending break up.  Please share your break up stories with me.

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Why Love at First Sight is Just Like a Fairy Tale

24 Tuesday Feb 2015

Posted by kristinlasalle in Dating Tips, Love at first sight, marriage, Online Dating, Relationships, Romance

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tumblr_n5s5zxanXO1tq9q5vo1_1280.jpg (1162×752)People always ask me if love at first sight really exists? Personally I believe it does. I don’t believe that it’s like fairy tales or the movies, where it happens overnight. You meet your Prince Charming, fall in love, get married, buy a house in the suburbs, and have 2.5 kids.  You live happily ever after and invite everyone to your 25th anniversary party. I think when it  actually does happen, it overpowers us with intense emotion.   Sometimes it’s so powerful, we don’t know what to do with it when we have it.  Timing really is everything when it comes to the subject of love.  Maybe that is where they came up with the term “The one that got away.” If the timing is off in our lives, well this rare event could go to waste if the right action is not taken during the initial meeting.

I have only experienced love at first sight three times in my life.  Once in high school, once in college, and once as an adult.  Scientists say that you are only romantically compatible with one out of 100 people that you meet in this lifetime.  The real question to this scientific fact is:  Do I have more of a chance of experiencing the love at first sight phenomenon (since I meet thousands of people) vs the average person who may be an introvert and whom has less opportunities with their career and social circle as I do?

Since dating and courting has never really changed since prehistoric times and online dating has become the revolution and taken over, does this mean that we have a better chance of meeting the one?  I guess it wouldn’t be called love at first sight per say, but instead: Love at first profile picture.  And how much love can you get from a photo?

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I realized that each time I had this feeling they all had these three things in common. Firstly, I met them in person, secondly I looked at them directly in the eyes.  They say that eyes are the windows to the soul.  I’m very attracted to kind and beautiful eyes. They are my favorite part of the physical body.  Eye contact is very important when falling in love.  It has been proven that it only takes 8 seconds of full eye contact to know if you are attracted to the object of your desire and will pursue them further. Lastly, they all made me chase them a little.  I don’t think it’s just men that hunt.  I disagree with this cliche.

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Love at first sight is a mutual feeling or its not the real thing.  That’s just called infatuation and it wears off after a couple of weeks.  This story is one that will be continued.  All I can say is, for now never give up on love, mostly love at first sight.  It does exist and this is coming from someone who is experiencing it.

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The Almost Boyfriend and Why Dating is so Tough

20 Friday Feb 2015

Posted by kristinlasalle in Dating Tips, friendships, Horror Stories, international, love, marriage, Men seeking women, Online Dating, Relationships, Romance, Sex Advice, Single Parents, trends', Video dating, women seeking men

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Friends with benefits. - WOULD IT BE SO AWFUL IF I CHANGED MY FB NAME TO I want to preface this by saying that I have literally been single for six years.  My dating life usually consists of one date and then they never answer my calls again or 3 dates and we become friends or the infamous “almost boyfriend” situation.  The “Almost Boyfriend” situation is a tricky one.  It’s where you have a really nice guy that acts like your boyfriend.  He treats you like his girlfriend, and his actions say you’re my one and only. But his words say nothing about being exclusive.

Things are good, he takes you on lots of great dates, he opens the car door for you, he tells you that you are beautiful, he brings you to his functions as his plus one. You even talk about the future and have met his family. In your head you are thinking this seems a lot like a relationship. You are now sleeping over 2 to 3 times a week and planning vacations and talking about getting puppies. But when you actually ask the big scary question “Are we exclusive?” He will mostly answer like this as you are approaching the 6-8 week mark” “Things are great and we are still getting to know each other, I was burned in my last relationship.” He will look at you with the most sincere look as if he was begging you with his eyes not to rebut his answer.


You reply “Yes things are great but I don’t feel comfortable with you being sexual with anyone else, I like what we have.” Then he will look at you with puppy dog eyes and say,”Babe I’m not sleeping with anyone else and I don’t have time for any other girl. I’m so busy with work and I just want to spend my spare time with you.” This answer makes you feel at ease and you both change the subject to a lighter note, and have yet another wonderful date. The problem is this touchy subject will come up on your next date night.  Believe me, its not over yet.  I guess the questions you will start to ask yourself about this “Almost boyfriend“ situation are these three detailed questions:

1. How long is too long before making it official ? Should it be 4-6 weeks or 6-12 or after consistent sleep overs and the toothbrush is in the bathroom?

2. What’s the hesitation? What does he need to know before making that ultimate decision? Does he need a push so you both don’t waste anymore time. Does he need   you to set up a one on one speed date featuring your life story to show him your character or do you need to give him a mini autobiography or outline of your 5 to 10 year goals. What does he need?

3. Should you withhold great sex so you’re not just feeling used or basically in a friends with benefits situation?

After you figure out why he’s not making it official maybe its time to move forward to someone who will want to put your mind at ease instead of being the “Almost boyfriend” and leaving you high and dry as soon as something more fun comes along.  Someone that is not asking him questions about commitment. Don’t be surprised when you are heartbroken!

When you ask him what happened I bet he replies, ”I never said we were together exclusively we were just dating and getting to know each other why are you acting crazy?”

What do you guys think: Get a label on it or just keep dating?

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When Your Friends Ditch You for Their Lovers

19 Thursday Feb 2015

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So being single is great when you have friends that are single. You can go out to events, concerts, dinners, movies, laugh, talk about anything, and basically just be yourself and not worry about any rules or restrictions. All of your emotional and spiritual needs will be met with the right friends in your life. If you want your physical needs met you can call an ex-lover or go on an online date these days. So between work, great friends and the occasional booty call what else does a person need? Well this seems like a great situation until your best friend actually finds someone.

I remember going out to happy hour with my best friend talking about how badly we wanted love and a guy in our life. After drinking three Long Islands we could care less and just wanted to go dancing. We would turn up the music and dance around the house as we would get dressed up. When we were all glammed up we would take some selfies and post “friends forever hoes before bros”, or something along those lines on Facebook.  Then while walking to the club in the city we would talk about life, exes, sorrows, our favorite memories together, and ultimately how happy we were to have each other, and how boring life would be without one another. We would look over at each other with kool aid smiles and agree telepathically.  We thought that we would be like this forever.

So in the last two years I was in seven weddings.  I am the last of my friends that are single besides my best friend. Once my friends found their significant others it was like their cell phones fell into a bottomless pit and they couldn’t be reached.  All of a sudden when I called them it was going straight to voicemail.  Essentially I was getting the “FU” button and for anybody that doesn’t know what that is: It’s when someone sees you calling but ignores your call!  Funny, I remember actually leaving voicemails to them at first but never getting a call back.  Even if I did, it would be two weeks later.  To top things off, they had the nerve to ask if everything is ok?  By the time they called back I didn’t even know what the call was about. Then they would talk for a minute and say, “Ok, I gotta go.  Me and so and so are going out and oh by the way my phone is broken so if you don’t hear from me that’s why.” What does this actually mean?  There is nothing wrong with my phone I just don’t want you calling me while I’m with my guy.

Let’s fast forward so your friend’s phone has now been broken for 6 months or longer and you get a call.  It’s your friend reaching out to you.  Even though you’re pissed off they went off the radar leaving you alone to get fat, watch movies and eat ice cream by yourself you still take their calls.  They ask with concern, “How are you?”.  Before you answer they start crying and complaining about their relationship how incompatible they are, how they feel unwanted, hurt etc. They even ask for advice as to what should they do, it’s so horrible!  Before you can answer they answer their own question and say, “You’re a great friend, thanks so much for listening and helping me.  Let’s get together Friday like old times.”  You agree with hesitation, but in your mind you’re having flashbacks of all the great times you and your friend shared and are actually somewhat excited cause you can finally stop feeling sorry for yourself and get out of the house.

Friday comes and your friend never calls.  When you call, once again you get the infamous “FU” button again straight to voicemail. Six more months pass and you get a call from your friend “Hi how are you?” Before you reply they screech out in sheer happiness, “I got big news, we’re getting married and I want you to be in the wedding!” Before you answer yes or no you receive 20 texts of all the wedding plans, dress fittings and cost. “I’m so happy you’re my bestie and you get to celebrate my big day.” Then I bring up the fact that we had plans 6 months ago, and a silent pause is on the other end.  They respond with, “Oh well, you know my phone was broken silly.”  I’ll save Bridezillas for another post but you get my point.  All of us will have to experience the friend ditch.

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Why Tinder is Ruining Online Dating for Us All

16 Monday Feb 2015

Posted by Jason Sherman in Dating Tips, Home, Online Dating, Relationships

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Even though Tinder has millions of users and is in the press and media almost every day, it is truly ruining the online dating industry in a big way. One of the biggest reasons why, is because it is making people lazy. Now they can just swipe left or right and superficially choose someone to go on a date with based on their pictures. Typically, people who use Tinder are just looking for a fun night out with someone new, they aren’t really looking for a serious relationship, because they can just swipe left or right again to find someone new.

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Using someone’s photo and basic profile information is a difficult way to find out if you have chemistry or not. It is statistically proven that based on algorithms, questionnaires, pictures, and other factors, you don’t really know if you’re a good match with someone until you meet face-to-face and have a real date. This is why Tinder is failing to help the online dating industry.  If anything, it’s hurting it.

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Now if you ask me if Tinder has made online dating easier, yes it has. It has opened the dating pool to a lot more people, removed some of the skepticism people associate with online dating, and have generally made it easier to meet someone. Being said, even though it is easier, it is also harder. People now have tons of options to choose from, which makes it very difficult to have them settle on just one person. Also, until people start to embrace new technologies such as video, and real-time communication, singles will truly not get to know each other before meeting to find out if they have chemistry.

Tinder might be a good excuse to get laid, but when you want a real relationship, it’s not the best option. Good luck swiping left and right!

 

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9 Reasons Why It Sucks To Be Single In Your 30’s

15 Tuesday Jul 2014

Posted by Lloyd Christmas in Dating Tips, Home, Online Dating

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Being single in your 30’s is kind of like being a 10 year old dog still on the streets and never being adopted…It sucks…and here are the top 9 reasons why:

  1. The talent pool of potential partners is thin. If you think about it, the majority of healthy, attractive people are engaged in their early twenties, married by mid-twenties, pregnant by late twenties, and hanging on for dear life until their mid-thirties, when they’ll decide whether or not to put their hopeless, wounded racehorse of a marriage out of its misery. Simply put, the pool is thin at this age because couples are still a few years away from divorce.
  2. Masturbation gets old. At 16, I could make a weekend of it. At 32, when it’s time to stand up to walk to the bathroom for a towel and you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror, you feel a wave of disgust and self-pity. Then you hang the towel back up and forget about that feeling, but it’s there.
  3. This is more for women. If you want babies, this is the fourth quarter.
  4. When you finally land a date, figuring out all of the logistics between work, kids, and a babysitter requires a plan that feels like it’s out of an Ocean’s 11 movie.
  5. People are crazy. On one date, the lady’s ex-husband followed us to the bar and berated her in the middle of the Cheesecake Factory parking lot while I stood there pretending to check my phone. Another time, a woman invited me to her place. We made out in her dark bedroom until a baby starting crying in the corner of the room. Up until then, I was unaware of any baby.
  6. You harbor an especially strong hatred for Facebook anniversary status updates because they all start with, “X years ago, I married my best friend.”
  7. When you tell a group of people that you’re single, they look at you with the same pity as if you told them you’ve been diagnosed with colorectal cancer.
  8. Laughing isn’t as enjoyable when you’re alone. When I watch a comedy on TV and something makes me laugh, I get uncomfortable and always cut it off by clearing my throat and muttering, “oh man, that’s funny…”
  9. You have to go out of your way to post memes and create lists to convince people (and yourself) that being single ‘rocks.’

Hope you enjoyed this, and I’m sure you related to at least some of it!

 

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