Romance may take a backseat after several years of being married. As your roles and responsibilities grow, you and your spouse may have less time together. Because of the need to get work done, to pay the bills, to finish chores and to care for the kids, sitting down for a romantic dinner and trying to win your heart may not be top priority for your husband anymore. This can be quite frustrating, because women have the need for emotional intimacy, and men sometimes forget that. It may be up to the wife to rekindle the romance in her husband’s heart.

Define Romance

You have to understand that men and women have their own perception of what romance is. Romance to a wife is hoping her husband would give her flowers and chocolates or take her out on a date just like they did before. But to a husband, romance could simply be a playful cuddle or by making love to her whenever they get the chance to be alone. Try to recognize when he is being romantic in his own way and appreciate that. If he sees that you like the things he does for you, he will do it more often.

Have Realistic Expectations

If you expect things in your marriage to be as romantic as they were when you were dating, then you are not being realistic. You will only end up being frustrated and disappointed with your husband all the time. Remember that change is part of your journey as a couple. You and your husband have to be creative and flexible in finding ways to squeeze in romance to your busy schedules.

It Starts with You

Husbands begin to doubt themselves, when you have not been sweet to each other for some time or you may have rejected his sexual advances before. He may become unsure whether you want him to get close to you or not. To clear all his doubts and inhibitions, you have to be the one to romance him first. When he sees you are in the mood for love, he will surely catch on.

Always Be His Beautiful Wife

Men are naturally visual creatures. Always make an effort to look and smell good.. Every moment with him is your chance to tease and seduce him. Wear sexy clothes and smile more often. You will notice that your husband will be a little more playful and sweet to you.

Tell Him What You Want

Communication is important in letting your man know what you expect from your relationship. Lovingly share with him how you want things to be. He would definitely be glad to hear that you still want some romantic alone time with him even after being married for some time.

Make Time To Be Alone With Him

Schedule at least one day in a week to spend time alone with your man. Let him know that it is your date night and that you are in the mood for some romance. If you do this regularly, he will look forward to this day and come up with romantic ways to surprise you and make each date night special.

Be More Positive

To put your husband in a loving and playful mood, you have to be cheerful and inviting too. Avoid complaining or talking about things that worry you or irritate you. Negativity will only put him in a bad mood. He has had his share of stressful events with his whole day at work. So when he gets home, find some funny or nice stories to talk about. Be the one that makes him smile at the end of the day and he will appreciate you more.

Appreciate Him

Lastly, men like it when they are appreciated by their wives. Tell him when he does something that you really like. Compliment him when he looks good. Kiss him when he says something nice to you. Try to recognize your husband’s efforts to get close to you and his own ways of showing that he cares for you. Let him know that you appreciate these gestures. This encourages him to be more romantic.

***This was a guest post by special guest Sylvia Smith***

Author Bio: Sylvia Smith is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. Her mission is to provide inspiration, support and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage. She is a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy, happy marriages. Follow her on Facebook, Twitter, StumbleUpon, Google+ and Pinterest.

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